10 Reasons Why He Never Texts You, But Always Replies

“He never texts me on his own initiative, but he always replies when I text him.” Does that sound like a sentence that could come from your own mouth? You are not the first woman to wonder why some men never take the text initiative, but do reply to all the texts.

Women all over the Netherlands (ahem, the world) are daily challenged to decipher this typical male behavior. At first glance, everything seems to be going in the right direction. You talk to each other regularly and you also text quite often. But when you think about it, you discover that the initiative lies mainly with you.

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He never texts on his own?

Women are right to be concerned because they feel like there’s something wrong with the relationship or with him. Is he playing mind games with me? Is this his way of playing hard to get ? Is he interested but not really into texting? Or, let’s hope not, is he not interested enough?

You have every right to wonder why he never makes the first move. We’ll help you unravel this mysterious behavior. Here are 10 reasons why he never texts you, but always replies.

1. He doesn’t like texting

Men text very differently than women. Honestly? Men text women because they know women like it. Those intriguing, deep conversations you have with him in the beginning? He does it for you. For men, texting is a way to set up a date, make arrangements, and sometimes share a meme or video. That’s about it. So the fact that he doesn’t text you first can’t have anything to do with you at all: it’s the texting habits of men in general.

2. He doesn’t want a relationship with you

A very likely reason why he does answer messages and doesn’t take the initiative himself is because he doesn’t see a future with you. The contact is nice, the conversations are pleasant and he enjoys your attention. But it won’t be a relationship. He may suffer from fear of commitment , fear of abandonment , or he just doesn’t feel strong enough.

He likes you enough to have contact with you. Just not enough to actually start something with you. In short, he wants to text you and maybe even meet up, but he doesn’t give the signal that he wants you – by texting first.

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3. He wants to protect himself

It’s not just women who get hurt in their relationships. Men can also go through things that make them want to protect themselves from more heartache . He may be insecure about your feelings for him and as a result, he may be trying to protect himself from any emotional pain. Especially when that insecurity is not met with affirmation, he may withdraw from communication and leave it up to you. While it’s not the best way to handle it, it’s a pretty safe option.

4. He has had bad experiences with it

While there could be many reasons why he never texts first, it’s possible that in previous relationships he was labeled as too clingy: a love bomber . He let his intense feelings get the better of him and became clingy. He was the one who texted first every time – to the point of being annoying. And that could have led to a breakup with his ex. That’s why he may have decided not to be the first to text.

This can also be reinforced if you have told him about a difficult man who would not leave you alone. That clingy man who always bothered you in the past with his annoying messages and phone calls. By giving such signals that you do not like it, you can take away his initiative.

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5. He is introverted in this regard

If he never takes it upon himself to text you first and start a conversation, but does respond when you initiate, it could be because of his introverted personality. Most men have both extroverted and introverted traits, including the person you’re talking to. How introverted he is depends on the situation and the situation he’s in. And texting you, or meeting up with you in general, can bring out and magnify that introverted part of him.

It can stop him from making small talk, make him think too much before he says something and he won’t text you on his own. But if you text him, he will respond.

6. He has little self-confidence

He’s tough on the outside, soft on the inside. While you think this guy is not afraid of anything, his biggest fear is rejection. When he receives your texts, he knows you want to talk to him. He answers your messages as if nothing is wrong. But when he has to initiate the conversation himself, his lack of self-confidence comes to the fore. The fear of rejection – which we all have a little bit – is too great for him to initiate contact.

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7. He is busy

Men are said to be not as good at multitasking as women. Due to the busyness of his life, he does not have the time to divide his attention between all the tasks on his to-do list. Let alone that he still has to text. It may not seem like a valid excuse, but it is simply not a priority for him.

If you also don’t give him the time to send a message himself – when he does have time – then it won’t happen at all. So if work pressure is the reason: relax, don’t start the conversation yourself and wait until he does have time.

8. He plays hard to get

Yes, men can play hard to get too . According to research, it’s actually a technique that can work , so you can’t really blame them. But it can lead to them confusing someone with the mixed signals. So the fact that he’s not texting on his own could mean that he wants to come across as someone who’s playing hard to get .

9. He knows you text first

Once you get into the routine, it becomes a habit that he receives a text from you first. Some men are just lazy when it comes to texting. He has time to text you, doesn’t play hard to get, and has no reason not to text. But because he knows you will text him, he refuses to take the lead.

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10. He plays with multiple women

Going back to the multitasking, he may also have multiple women in mind. You may be the other woman in his life – a mistress , who knows. He may be avoiding interactions with you to avoid being found out as a cheater. Or he may not want you to get too attached to him.

Having said all that, remember that no two guys are the same. Men have different reasons why they never text first. Some expect you to be the one to text them, while others don’t want to give you false hope. Whatever the reason, you now know the possible reasons why he never texts back, but always replies.

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