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When dating, everyone can have different intentions and sometimes you find out in an unpleasant way. One of the most unpleasant ways is when you don’t know what the other person wants for a long time and are left with a lot of uncertainty. You keep seeing each other and although you think the other person cares about you, you are not sure. And that is exactly where it starts to gnaw at you.
If the ambiguities persist for a long time, it could even be that the other person is deliberately being unclear. The reason for this is simple: your date partner wants to keep you on a string.
What exactly is meant by this concept and 3 examples of stringing someone along we will discuss with you today. This way you can decide for yourself whether it is not better to let go of the other person as soon as possible.
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What does stringing along mean?
To just really throw it in your face (sorry, but we prefer to be clear), go to the park and you will probably come across someone walking their dog. If all goes well, they will be on a leash and you will also hear commands. A well-behaved four-legged friend will obey nicely, because whoever is in control is the dog’s owner.
Now, we don’t want to make a direct comparison between someone being led and a dog, but it is a similar situation. Your date is in control and you obey. And that, as you can probably understand, is not a healthy starting point.
However, that does not necessarily mean that the other person is bad for you or ultra-dominant ; it is more about the other person pulling the string tighter and then letting it go again. And that you let yourself be guided by that.
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3 Signs You’re Being Stringed Along
There are several reasons why someone tries to string the other along. It can be a weakness of the other, because he or she simply does not dare to say that he or she does not want to continue with you. There is still a figurative string, because you are called upon again and again, but you are not going anywhere together.
Every now and then the other person shows up to do something fun with you, but just when you think that something serious is finally happening between you, the other person wanders off again. And that is frustrating: stringing someone along also means uncertainty. All in all, there are a lot of signs that it is happening, but we will discuss 3 with you:
1. Never a declaration of love
Yes, you think the other person likes you , but you don’t know for sure. You pick up signals that the other person cares about you, because you hug and kiss, but it has never really been said to you. The other person has never sat down in front of you to tell you that he or she loves you, or at least sees a future with you.
If you ask someone directly what the other person wants, there is a good chance that you will get an unclear answer that does not contain any conviction. The situation even becomes uncomfortable and that would never be the case if there was complete conviction to want to continue with you. You can therefore interpret this sign as twofold: firstly, the other person will never indicate of their own accord that they care about you and if you ask yourself, you will get an unbelievable answer.
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2. It’s always about sex
The reason that the other person is still nice to you, may also have to do with the fact that he or she really wants something from you. Physically, it may click very well and at such times there is also enough affection , but as soon as you are together outside the bedroom, there is suddenly much less passion and emotion.
Of course, it becomes completely extreme when the other person has to leave after sex, because in that case you are literally used as a lust object: a booty call . Have you never slept at the other person’s place? Then unfortunately there is a reason for that. Just ask for fun if you can sleep at his or her place and watch the reaction.
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3. You don’t know your partner’s friends and family
You only met a few of his friends briefly on the fourth date and never met anyone from his or her immediate circle again. Meeting family members seems like a utopia, while you would like to introduce the other person to your mom or dad. If you are deliberately kept at a distance, it means that you are not important enough to be involved with his or her friends or family members.
On the other hand, the reverse is also true: if your fling doesn’t want to meet your friends or family, that also says a lot about the other person’s intentions towards you.
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Let go of the line
As mentioned, there are also many other signs that you are being strung along. But if you notice that the above 3 signs correspond to your current situation, then you will have to think about yourself. It is very challenging to want to ‘conquer’ the other, but if you are only being used for sex, for example, then you will have to keep the honor to yourself and say goodbye in time.
Holding on to someone who never had any future plans with you will only give you more confusion and mixed signals . Our advice? Let go of the line as soon as possible.
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