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When you have a love relationship, you always experience good and bad moments together. That is very normal, because it cannot always be sunshine and roses. As long as you remain willing to share your life with the other and work together on a beautiful future, you know that you can get through anything together.
But there may come a time when your attention and love for the other person weakens and when you wonder whether you should continue with this relationship. When is the end of the relationship in sight and when is it just a blip?
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It’s almost inevitable
Unfortunately, every year many couples choose to end their marriage and file for divorce . In 2018, this happened to no fewer than 30,729 married couples in the Netherlands.
A divorce is a very drastic process and often causes a lot of sadness for both parties (and also for children). But when your relationship can no longer be saved, and you are sure that you can be happier without each other than with each other, it is really time to take the plunge.
It is then almost inevitable and you just want to ensure that the divorce goes as smoothly as possible. But before that happens, you want to know whether you should throw in the towel or whether you’re making it worse than it is.
Are you wondering if the end of your relationship is in sight? There are 8 signs that can indicate this:
1. You no longer trust each other
When you notice that your trust in each other is weakening, that is a serious signal. Because why do you now have less trust in your partner? Did things happen that caused this? And did you discuss these things well enough? Is it possible to forgive each other and rebuild trust or does it seem like this has become a hopeless case? And do you still trust yourself in this relationship? That too is based on your feelings for the other.
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2. Your standards and values have become too different
If you have been together for a long time, it is not surprising that you both change over the years. You never remain the same person forever, so your standards and values can also change. It can happen that your standards and values differ too much from those of your partner. This can lead to many clashes and even the shared vision of the future can change completely. If you are no longer on the same page, then the question is whether you still really fit together.
3. You make plans without taking your partner into account
Where you used to always keep your partner in mind when making plans, you now do that a lot less or maybe not at all. Do you recognize yourself in this? Then it is clear that your feelings for your partner and your desire to be together are decreasing. And that can indicate that the relationship is actually over . Ask yourself to what extent you are still prepared to take the other person into account.
4. You don’t have much fun together anymore
Of course, every relationship has its ups and downs . It is therefore logical that you cannot always be nice to each other. But in the long term, the advantages must of course continue to outweigh the disadvantages. Do you still have fun together regularly or do you mainly discuss and argue ? When you are outgrowing the relationship, you notice that you can no longer enjoy each other’s presence as much as before.
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5. You fantasize about what it would be like with someone else
Are you really crazy about someone and do you want to spend the rest of your life with them? Then it is almost impossible for you to fantasize about what life would be like with someone else. Of course you sometimes think about it when you hear a story or meet an attractive person. But that thought will disappear from your mind just as quickly.
If you constantly think about what it would be like with others or with a specific person, that is unfortunately not a good sign. And that is of course especially the case if you are looking for excitement on a website like Secretflirt or SecondLove .
6. You no longer see a future together with your partner
Is there still a willingness between you and your partner to work on the future together? When love is gone, sometimes you can still bring it back. But is that something you both want and are willing to work on?
Maybe you can go to relationship therapy together to discover how you can grow together again. If you don’t feel like doing all that, then it is clear that you want to shape your future differently from now on.
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7. You no longer get excited when you think about getting married
This one is clear. Did you have plans to get married, but now you no longer get excited when you think about it? Do you no longer get butterflies or happy feelings in your stomach when you think about standing together in front of the altar and promising each other your eternal loyalty? In such a case it is better to prevent than to cure.
Breaking off an engagement is less painful than having to divorce as a newlywed couple. And it saves you both a lot of grief and money. In that respect, it’s like a band-aid: the sooner you pull it off, the less you hurt yourself.
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8. Your partner seems to have become a stranger
In a relationship it is important that you feel attracted to each other and know each other inside and out. This creates trust, a sense of security and, above all, happiness. Sometimes partners grow so far apart that it seems as if they no longer even know the other.
Even worse than the brother/sister feeling you sometimes hear people talk about, is the feeling that the other has become a complete stranger. Being in a relationship with someone who feels like a stranger is much worse than not being in a relationship. At least then you can be happy.
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