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How often do you look to others to determine your worth – to make you feel significant, valuable and important? And how do you feel when you don’t get the appreciation and approval you are actually looking for?
Do you really want to put your self-worth in the hands of others? Do you want to let others decide whether or not you are doing well? Do you want to become the ‘victim’ of the judgment of others?
How often do you feel nervous because you’re afraid that you don’t do a good enough job in the eyes of others or that you don’t look good enough to be approved? Imagine how exhausting it actually is to spend all your time wondering what others think of you.
There is only one way to stop this vicious cycle: Learn to value yourself. Learn to give yourself the attention, approval, love and acceptance that you now seek from others.
Valuing yourself isn’t about standing in front of the mirror and saying you’re a great person, it’s not just about telling yourself you’re okay. Because telling it and actually believing it are two different things.
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There are two important steps to take for self-esteem. The first is to try to get in touch with your essence, your wiser self. Ask your wiser self to reveal your true self. Imagine seeing yourself as a little child, before you learned to judge yourself and put yourself down. Imagine all the reasons why your older self adores that little child you see. What do you like and love about her?
The second step is the way you treat yourself. It doesn’t matter how many nice things your wiser self tells you about yourself if you don’t stop judging and ignoring yourself first. Because by ignoring your feelings, eating or drinking your feelings away and by making others responsible for your self-worth, you get the feeling that you are worthless.
Treat yourself as a human being that is cherished. The more you learn to see yourself, love yourself and appreciate yourself, the more appreciation you will automatically receive from others.
If you don’t treat yourself with love, you are actually inviting others to do the same. When you learn to value yourself, this energy will tell others that you are worthy of being loved and appreciated.
Your life will really improve when you learn to love and appreciate yourself.
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