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The days will remain grey and rainy for now, but in a few months, summer will be here again. Combined with the hope of easing the measures, there is no better time than now to find someone to spend the summer with – and maybe even much longer. That’s what they thought at StyleCaster , because after the winter months, every dating profile needs a fresh update, right?
They went to investigate and ended up with Logan Ury, the ‘Director of Relationship Science’ of dating app Hinge . What should singles change about their profiles and what should they know about dating in 2021? With these questions in mind, relationship expert Ury offers 6 handy tips that should help you survive on the dating apps.
She argues that the success rate on a dating app largely depends on the time and effort you put into your profile. “Your profile is your chance to make a great first impression, so make sure it accurately represents who you are by adding different photos and extras that show different parts of your personality,” Ury says.
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6 Tips to Succeed on a Dating App
According to research from Hinge, singles on dating apps are primarily looking for a mix of humor and vulnerability—no superficial answers or nude photos. “When you create your profile, think of it as your opening line, since people will start conversations based on your photos,” Ury says. “For example, if you use photos focused on travel or cooking, your matches will ask follow-up questions about those topics, so make sure your profile hints at the types of conversations you want to have.”
No matter what app you’re swiping left and right on, there are a few things you need to keep in mind if you want to succeed on a dating app, according to experts. Here are 6 dos and don’ts.
1. Show who you are
As simple as it sounds, it’s Ury’s first piece of advice. “Choose photos that are accurate and flattering,” she says. “When it comes to the all-important first photo, start with a clear headshot.” As for what photos to avoid? “Avoid photos with filters or sunglasses, as they make it harder to see what you look like.”
How many photos should you post? She has the answer to that, too. “Make sure you have a mix of different types of photos, including at least one full-body photo and one of you doing an activity you enjoy.”
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2. Avoid one-word answers
Men are especially good at it, with their signature “OK” text, but women are no exception. “When asking questions, avoid one-word answers that don’t tell you much about you,” says Ury. “Show the other person you want a relationship by making an effort to respond.”
3. Be specific
“The more specific and open you are, the easier it is for a match to start a conversation with you,” Ury explains. “This also helps show the real you.”
4. Stand out by doing more
On Tinder, we have the Super Like , on other apps – such as Hinge – it is possible to link a comment to your like. And that is the way to stand out, it turns out. “By sending a comment with your like, you stand out and show that you are more than just interested in getting to know the other person,” says Ury. “71 percent of singles say they are more likely to succeed in a match if they add a thoughtful comment to show that they are interested. This extra effort really helps.”
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5. Keep the conversation fresh
Dating app conversations aren’t interviews or job interviews where everyone asks the same questions over and over again. “Don’t be afraid to ask follow-up questions or switch to a new topic,” says Ury, who notes that it’s all about getting beyond small talk .
Hinge’s expert suggests asking questions like, “What’s something that makes you lose track of time?” or “What’s your favorite song?” to have deeper conversations. After all, research shows that asking personal and thoughtful questions is the best way to get to know someone.
6. Take it to the next level
Ultimately, online dating isn’t about the online dating. It’s about the follow-up—which may or may not happen, depending on the conversations. “Keep the momentum going by switching from messaging on the dating app to texting,” Ury says. “Even if you can’t meet IRL yet,” she adds. “Don’t be afraid to ask for a video date. It’s the new coffee date—a vibe check to see if the chemistry is there with someone.”
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